25 Years, 25 lessons.

Here are a few lessons I have learnt over the years. None of this goes to say that my life is perfect or that I know it all. Who Knows? Next month I could learn something new. I am still a work in progress just like every other young woman out there.

  1. Pray no matter what. Put God first and everything will fall in place.
  2. Do not compare yourself to anyone. Do the best you can and keep it moving.
  3. Be careful who you let into your life. Protect yourself and your inner peace
  4. Build relationships you can benefit & grow from. Have friends that are like minded. You are who you surround yourself with.
  5. Travel, as much as you can. There is still a lot in the world to be seen. Explore the different things that the world has to offer this an is an experience no one can take from you.
  6. Read! Especially about things you don’t know. Continuously improve yourself and increase your knowledge.
  7. Honor your parents.
  8. Not every one will like you or support you and that’s okay.
  9. Be careful how you handle failure. It’s okay to fail, try something different if one thing fails. That’s the only way to GROW through what you GO through.
  10. Learn to say no. Don’t feel guilty about it.
  11. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You cannot make everyone happy! Besides your parents and God you don’t answer to anyone. This doesn’t mean you should go and disrespect your boss or anyone with authority you don’t have.
  12. Not everyone is happy for you. With that being said, be careful who you tell your plans to. People will smile in your face and envy everything you do. Guess what? Even if they tried, they can’t be YOU, or have the same CHARACTERISTICS you posses. No one can Replace you and your Uniqueness,That’s your POWER!
  13. Self-care is very important. Pamper yourself, you deserve it. Find something relaxing and do it!
  15. Do not take things personal. Accept the fact that people are at different stages of their lives and keep it moving.
  16. PICK YOUR BATTLES. Learn when not to give AF***. Practice the art of picking and choosing were to invest your energy and time.
  17. Set goals and plans to achieve them. Your mind unfolds all that you feed it. Now is the time to do all you want to do. Those goals in your mind and heart won’t manifest THEMSELVES until you let them. MANIFEST now!
  18. Love and embrace the stage of  life that you are currently in. There is beauty in the simple things you ignore.
  19. Volunteer when you can. Do something meaningful for your community.
  20. Exercise and learn to love your body.
  21. Seek growth in all areas of your life. You need to flourish in all you do.
  22. Go after your dreams now! Learn to make necessary sacrifices to achieve them . Ladies never compromise your goals and education for a man that is not your husband, dad or brother. Remember You are Clothed in Strength & Dignity and you Laugh Without Fear of the Future” Proverbs 31:25   Let that be your fuel!! A future with God is secure nomatter your current circumstances or insecurities….
  1. Do things that matter to you first. I had to learn the difference between being selfless and being selfish.
  2. Guard your heart. PEOPLE WILL USE YOU… I say this in the nicest way, WISE UP & be ATTENTIVE to how PEOPLE TREAT YOU.
  3. Financial literacy is important. Learn how to save, save, save! Also invest in a new craft that will bring you additional income.



  1. mwash
    April 26, 2018 / 6:10 am


  2. mwash
    April 26, 2018 / 9:27 am

    The fact that u have learnt all dese lessons means u r not perfect but learnt d lessons behind ur mistakes…..just like we all do…..beautiful peice over dere…

  3. Mary
    April 26, 2018 / 11:33 am

    Yesssss!!! I love this post.We keep learning and as we learn we pour into others too.

    • April 28, 2018 / 2:38 am

      That’s true. We keep growing & Learning from each other ❤️

  4. Fatima
    April 28, 2018 / 2:33 am

    #15 is such a game changer. Great lessons sis 😍😍 I will take them to heart.

    • ndelwamwasa
      April 28, 2018 / 2:37 am

      Thanks darling ❤️ May we continue to learn from each other

  5. May 25, 2018 / 12:52 pm

    This is edifying 🙌

    • ndelwamwasa
      May 25, 2018 / 1:50 pm

      thank you!!

  6. Lissa
    July 2, 2018 / 1:51 pm

    I loved this!!! Your blog is a wonderful start. Looking forward to reading more.

    • ndelwamwasa
      July 2, 2018 / 3:02 pm

      Thank you, Lissa… i have more coming this week.

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