My Perspective, His plan

Hey Queens, in my first post, I mentioned how eventful 2017 was for me in relation to a few events that happened in my life. This made me realize I had to slow down and take care of me. I decided to start the year positively and re-evaluate my life and the decisions I had made. I chose this to help me set new personal goals for myself.

I started out 2018 with a trip to Zambia, which was very refreshing and helped me refocus on what was more important in my life. I had not been to Zambia for seven years and always made excuses not to go. Lord knows I needed it this time! I needed a break.  This was one of the best decisions I made. This may sound Cliché, but there is really no place like home. Investing in that trip was the best decision I made, and it couldn’t have happened at a better time of my life.

This trip helped me realize that I had lost myself.  I was focused on so many irrelevant things but myself. I was more concerned about the wellbeing of others and I had become mentally and physically exhausted. I felt so empty because I was pouring from an empty vessel that was not being replenished.

I also came to the realization that I had not achieved some of the personal goals I had set for myself. Were these goals unrealistic or was this God’s plans being manifested in my life? Did I not achieve any of them because this was God’s way of telling me that His plans are better than mine? When you realize that your plans are not the best for you, what do you do?

Below are a few things that helped me reshape my life:

Let Go and let God

As simple as this statement is, it is the most practical statement that can be used to give back all control to God. He alone sees beyond the human eye; Trust in God to let His plans prevail in your life.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare] and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11)

 Do “You”

Forget the opinions of others and focus on what you think of yourself. Comparison derails many aspirations. At the end of the day, you are who you believe yourself to be. You are who the Lord says you are and no one’s opinion can change that.

For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not,
I am the one who helps you. (Isaiah 41:13)

 Restate your values and why you have them

This is another great lesson I took away from my trip. When your elders mention that you should never forget were you come from; it is no joke. Your values and culture molds you and shapes your future. Once you stray away, it affects your decision-making process.  Restate your values, align them with your goals and bring them up to God: he will never fail you.

I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” (Hebrews 13:5)

Do what you love & live life

Live your life how you want and be unapologetically you. Invest in what you love. Figure out the necessary steps to do what you love and act on them. Avoid a life full of regrets; we all have one chance in this life.

What drives you?

My faith drives me and motivates me to do better and be the best I can be. I read, journal and pray constantly for peace and clarity. Also, remember to honor your parents and family, your blessings will come from them.

What is holding you back from being who you really want to be?



First love yourself and others later



  1. Jammie Temaly
    March 20, 2018 / 5:04 pm

    I feel like am reading my story thanks for voicing our on our behalf.

    • mwash
      March 21, 2018 / 9:02 am

      So true…

  2. mwansa
    March 20, 2018 / 5:09 pm

    Beautiful…i had a terrible phase in 2016 too..made so many bad decisions that really costed me…i suffered a huge heartbreak and meltdown that made me soo angry at almost errthing around me..i later realised i was poisoning maself..during ma journey of realisation, a scripture hit me “Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds,
    because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.
    Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.

    (James 01 : 2 – 3 )
    This changed ma way of thinking and instead began to thank God for all i was goin through and i asked him to take charge…he said “be stil!and know i am God”..my faith grew stronger everyday and my heart opened up to forgive..and today i can say i am at peace with myself and full of joy….v learnt to have time for myself and time to listen to what God is telling me…
    Thanks girl for sharing cos this is opening me up and learning alot too…beautiful piece..

  3. Rachel
    March 20, 2018 / 6:41 pm

    This is sone beautiful ❀

  4. Rachel
    March 20, 2018 / 6:42 pm


  5. Fatima
    March 20, 2018 / 10:52 pm

    Giiirrrllll if that ain’t the truth. You were speaking to my soul 😘😘😘

  6. Christelle
    March 21, 2018 / 1:59 am

    I enjoy reading this blog everyday. Love you babe❀️

  7. Mary
    March 21, 2018 / 6:01 am

    Honey,this is great.I can relate.
    I can feel the honesty in this

  8. Mary
    March 21, 2018 / 6:05 am

    Honey,I can feel the honesty in this post.

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